Red Flags to Watch for in a Potential Co-Parent

Members who've been through the process a while share a few recurring warning signs. Someone who avoids specifics about finances or custody and keeps answers vague "for now" is postponing a conversation you need before conceiving, not after.

Watch for anyone who pressures you to skip legal paperwork, insists an informal verbal agreement is "enough," or reacts defensively when you ask about their past relationships and parenting history. Genuine future co-parents welcome scrutiny; they know it protects the child too.

Take your time. Several successful matches on the platform took six months or more of conversation before either party felt ready to commit. There's no prize for rushing.